Information for people who injure themselves, and for friends and parents so you can better understand self-injury and get help for someone you know who self-injures.
Learn how to feel better without injuring yourself, when to seek professional treatment, how to recognize when a loved one is self-injuring, and how to help a loved one who is self-injuring.
Learn what self-injury is, why people injure themselves, how you can help yourself now, how you can help yourself in the future, what support and treatment is available, and what friends and family can do to help.
Coping skills and alternatives to self-injury
Find alternatives to self-injury based on what need you're trying to fill, whether it be because you're feeling angry, frustrated, restless, sad, depressed or unhappy. There are also alternative ideas in case you need to feel something or want to see scars.
More alternatives to self-injury based on what need you're trying to fill, like Buddy Project's Alternatives, and adds alternatives for those who self-injure to distract themselves, to take up time, or because they are feeling scared or have other reasons they self-injure.
The Butterfly Project is an alternative to self-harming by taking a marker and drawing a butterfly on the area where the self-harm usually occurs. You then name the butterfly after someone you love and care about a lot. You must let the butterfly fade naturally; if you self-harm before it fades, the butterfly dies.
Supporting a loved one who self-injures
Learn how to support your friend by being informed, managing your feelings, finding ways to help, discovering things to avoid, and knowing what to do if your friend rejects help.
Our other resource pages
Visit our Counseling and Health Care resource pages for local agencies that can professionally support you through the pain you're feeling, and help you find healthier and safer ways to deal with the pain:
Visit our Mental Health resources page for information about how to talk to your parents/caregivers if you think you need a therapist, and how to find the right one:
Visit our Anxiety and Stress Relief, and Depression resource pages if you think these resources apply to you:
Visit our Suicide Prevention resources page if you are considering dying by suicide: