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Death, loss, and grief

1/12/2021

 
Death, loss, and grief
Everyone deals with grief differently, and you should never judge yourself. Death is inevitable and we all have to face it in one way or another, so know you’re not alone. If you have a lot on your mind and just need to vent, feel free to reach out to us. TeenTalk can also provide resources for specifically grief. If you have any thoughts about death or grief, you can message Ask Peppy and TeenTalkers will post their first response(s) within one to two business days!
02/15/2023 - MY SISTER
my sister tried to take her life this morning and i sat there holding her hands she has been doing better she tried to ***** and i miss her she is still in the hospital.

*****Some identifying information was removed from this message for this person’s privacy.
FROM MAGGIE
hello!

i am so, so glad you reached out to us, and i'm sorry that you had to go through all of this. coming this close to losing someone you love is terrifying. and it hurts. and it's okay to feel sad, or scared, or even angry, because it's hard. it's really hard. but i'm also glad that you were able to be there for her, holding her hands. i know you and your support must mean the world to her.

your sister is no doubt hurting right now, but so are you, and again, that's so, so valid. if there's anyone you feel comfortable talking to, like a trusted adult figure, or maybe a friend, or maybe even us here at TeenTalk, i encourage you to reach out. i know there are people willing to listen to you, or even just offer you a shoulder to lean on if you need it <3

right now, you can support your sister by doing what you've always done - be there for her and show her your love and support. you are incredibly strong and resilient, and i'm proud of you for continuing to love your sister for who she is. maybe try finding little things to share with her that you both enjoy - is there a childhood tv show she liked to watch? a snack that she enjoys? a favorite sweater that she wears all the time? doing little things for the ones we love can really add up and become a huge source of strength.

but ultimately, don't feel as if you need to take her well-being solely onto your shoulders. i'm sure she knows the love you have for her, and that you care so much for her - but a lot of this is also out of your control, and that's okay. you're going to be okay.

sending you and your sister all the hugs in the world <3

-maggie
FROM DAVID
Thank you so much for reaching out my name is David and I know its a difficult time for you but I'm glad you were able to be brave enough to reach out. I hope your sister is doing better and that she'll be alright and that you and the rest of your family will be too but I understand that'll be hard for you to forget what happened. You sound like you care about your sister a lot and I'm sure she cares about you a great deal too even though she might not have felt like herself lately. Your sister has probably been going through a very tough time and I'm sure she knows that you. I think the strength you've showed will really help you guys. If your sister does end up getting therapy, I think you should too since I know even though you may not have been physically hurt, this experience has most likely hurt you emotionally and I think therapy can help you and your sister. You've shown incredible power by being with your sister while she was hurt even though I'm sure you were hurt too seeing her like that but I think she'll really appreciate your support after she gets better. Hopefully she'll come to realize how much you care and won't attempt anything again. I can't begin to understand how terrible this is but I think you will be a lot of support for your sister and your family and I hope that you know your not alone and that you can always reach out to us, a teacher, a trusted friend or counsellor. Again, I really appreciate you reaching out and the incredible amount of willpower you have while going through this situation.
FROM COREY
Hello. I am so sorry that you both had that experience. You are a good sister for being there and holding her hands in a time of need. This can still have quite a toll on your mental health. Do not be afraid to reach out to people about how you're feeling. This could be trusted loved ones, teachers, school counselors, or close friends. In order to be able to support others, a person needs to have support for themselves. Your sister going to need some extra support at this time, but so are you. I wish you much luck for whatever the next steps are for you and your sister. We're here to talk if you ever need. You can call, text, email, or message us on social media.

Sending lots of love,
-Corey
5/6/2025-​Suiside
I’ve recently lost my best friend to be exact 27 days ago. I really miss her. Well now I’m going through what she went through and now I understand why she did what she did. But I still miss her like crazy. I’d give anything to see her again. It breaks my heart her kind loving soul is gone. She supported everyone even her bullies. She’s or she was the reason of my life. Now I’m lost.
from Emma
​Hii! I'm Emma from teentalk. I'm glad you reach out to us and thank you for sharing something so personal to you! It is very brave of you, and we are really proud of your braveness. I'm sorry that you have to go through such pain, especially losing someone so dear and close to you. I understand and your feeling are valid. Your best friend sound like a beautiful and amazing person. But don't forget you are too; you are the best of yourself and that is all it matters. You being here can carry on those beautiful memories you have with your best friend. You can live on her mind set and support others like she as a reminder of an amazing person she is. But the most important part is you being safe. So don't let those negativities let you down, you are amazing and important as all. If you need someone to talk, teentalk and I will be here for you from your lowest to your highest. You are very brave for talking about your feelings and issue like this. So, reach out to us, text us or call us, we would be more than thrill to hear from you!
from Eric
Hey, I am so sorry to hear that you've been going through this. Losing a friend so close to you, especially to something like that, can be unimaginably difficult. I understand it feels like the pain will never go away and you are all alone, but I promise you this isn't the case. While it may take a long time for the pain to subside, with the help of those who love and care about you, you will get through it! Also, you're never alone. Like I said, the people that love, support, and care about you are here for you. Now, I don't know your friend personally, but the way you describe her, she sounds like the type of person that would want you to fight through this and not succumb to those awful feelings. I know when I had feelings of wanting to do things like this, I would always think back to how much pain I would cause the people I love and care about, and I realized that I the pain I was feeling in that moment in time, was nothing compared to the pain I would cause the people I loved. This thought was what always pulled me out of dark times. I strongly encourage you to message or call in to the crisis and prevention line 988 if you're ever feeling like you're in a dark place and need help coming out. I believe in you to come out of this! -Eric
from dehlia
​Hello, I'm Dahlia from Teentalk. I am very sorry for your loss. It is painful to loose someone you loved dearly. Your best friend indeed sounded like a kind person. It is saddening to hear that she had bullies; she did not deserve to be treated that way. There will be days the loss of your friend will hit you hard; you may cry harder on some days and will feel exhausted because of the heartache. However, I want you to take care of yourself. Being suicidal and also loosing a friend can put you at risk of potential harm to yourself. The wording you are using, such as wanting to "see her again" and that you are "going through what she went through" makes me worry for your health and wellbeing. I care about you, and I hear the pain you are going through, so I really hope you will reach out to a mental health professional or a help line that can help with suicide. You do not have to be alone on the journey to healing. If you'd like, here at Teentalk we can locate resources for you to use and we can also try and help you make a phone call to a help line if you feel nervous. I want you to keep living, and so does everyone else in Teentalk. Your life is worth so much; you are worth so much. Therefore, I hope you will reach out for help so that you can find happiness.
from sarah
​Hello, I’m Sarah from teentalk. Thank you so much for taking the time to reach out to us, that’s very difficult especially after such a major loss like this. It sounds like she was such a bright light and a beautiful soul, giving support to those who hurt her. I am so sorry you have to experience such an impactful loss. I don’t think anyone should have to go through something so hard. I’m so very sorry that you are feeling lost in these times. I encourage you to reach out to us, or explore our resources page in times of hardship. My heart goes out to you and those affected, and thank you again so much for having bravery and reaching out to us.

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