05/14/2023 - I love sports but they make me crY
I'm in cross country at my middle school and I am always last in the race. We go against other middle schools but its not a competitive sport, even tho no one wins or loses it still hurts being last place everytime. My coaches and team mates tell me all that matters is that I finish the race and I always do but I still want to get better. My legs always hurt from the running and I'm trying to stretch constantly but I'm still slower and in pain. I also wanna do track next year and wrestling for my first year of high-school but those r competitive and if I cry from jog-running races with no winning or loses, how will I be able to do track and wrestling? I just wish I was tough and more in shape and knew how to box and wrestle because I love sports they r fun but it puts me down when I see everyone better at it than me. Being in a race and watching all the other girls get slowly farther and farther away from me and then looking back and seeing no one there hurts. It's also embarrassing sometimes. I've been doing this sport since April 10th, a whole month and I still don't see much difference. But before this I haven't done sports since 4th grade.
Hey! Thank you for reaching out to us. I understand how you feel when you say you want to do better in sports. I’ve gone through something similar to you. It’s really important to not let yourself start hating something you love. You seem to really enjoy running and playing sports and you should continue that even if you don’t play as well as you wished. Have you practiced out side of school like going on runs yourself? That might make you feel more comfortable and help you get in the practice you want and not feel bad about it! No matter what, don’t quit something you genuinely enjoy. If you work hard towards a goal, who knows what you may achieve? Feel free to reach out to us! We’d love to hear from you!
Hi there, my name is Amelia and I wanted to thank you for reaching out to us here at TeenTalk. I can see how this can be upsetting, but middle school is a time for you to find your passions and discover what makes you unique. What I would recommend would be to set individual goals for yourself. Maybe every few weeks or every race you can have a goal that is reachable so you can feel accomplished at the end of it. Comparing yourself to other people is never a true measure of your own growth and you shouldn't look past all this hard work you've been doing. And just remember that progress takes time an you should be proud of yourself. You'll find your groove and that finish line will look better than ever!
Oh my goodness I feel the same way sometimes! I never did sports till I started high school and my first year I was *so* bad at sports. It can be really hard to be slower than other people, an I can really relate to that. I think it is so amazing how you finish every race. I think PR's (personal records) are always so important. I definitely experienced how difficult it can feel working so hard and then still not being the best. I think at least for me, I think my coaches really appreciated that I showed up. Some of the people who were better at sports did come to practice as often and while I was the slowest, I feel like people really appreciated that I always came and had fun and did my best. I had a friend once at varsity who was actually really upset that they didn't get put on C-team because I made it look more fun than the people who were taking it super seriously. That always stood out to me because I always assumed being better at sports meant that they were like in some exclusive club that meant that they were having more fun. I think you should absolutely try out in high school, doing your best is always important and I think you would really enjoy it. It is so much fun making memories and meeting new people. I think fitness is such a journey and my favorite quote is "Next year you will have wished that you started today." And I feel like that is so true! You've got this and I absolutely bee-leaf in you!
I'm really sorry to hear that. It is important to finish and I think that it's really cool that you still finish even if you didn't beat the other girls. I am also bad at sports and dislike seeing others run away in front of me or beat me at scoring goals but I try and enjoy it still and if you try really hard I think you can make it fun. You can also try and practice to get better at it and also try eating a better diet or also talk to your coach about his recommendations. I think you'll be great at sports at the high school level and you will also find your place in a team or sport that you enjoy. From personal experience sometimes a good team is better than being good since a good team still supports you. I do hope you keep doing the sports you enjoy and continue them in high school!
hi! i'm not a sports person but i can totally see how not being the best at your passion can be painful :( i will say, as it sounds like you're still in middle school, your body is definitely still developing and change will come in time! people can get results in very varying times and it may take a little longer than a month to see a big difference in your times or stamina levels. i think you should stick with it and keep training throughout the summer, you'll most likely see a difference once school starts and that could also help build your confidence for more competitive sports!