07/09/2022 - ?
Can you got to hell for it?
Hello, friend. Thanks for reaching out and asking such a good and important question. Below are responses from two TeenTalkers. Please check back tomorrow (Wednesday, July 13) after 5 pm; we might have another response.
Hi there! It sounds like you're going through a lot right now, but it shows a lot of courage that you've reached out, so thank you!
It sounds to me like you have recently lost someone to suicide and/or are considering suicide yourself. In either case, I'm sorry that you're dealing with such a difficult time. It is never easy to lose someone you love or lose hope in your future happiness.
To address your question, I must first insert the disclaimer that I am agnostic and may not be able to offer the religious counsel you seek. I also cannot make any assumptions on your religious beliefs, as I don't know you! With that said, I was raised Christian and from my time in the church one of the things I recall being emphasized was that one cannot get into heaven by works alone. By that logic, it stands to reason that a single work like suicide cannot send someone to hell.
In the case that you lost someone recently, I hope you can take comfort in the knowledge that God has not abandoned them (once again, defaulting to a Christian perspective). If your question comes from a consideration of suicide however, I implore you to think of what God still has planned for you! Heaven sounds like a good deal, but there is merit to saving the best for last; stay awhile, you never know what you might miss if not!
Apologies if a Christian perspective is not what you were looking for, and I hope I was able to address your concerns. Once again, thank you for being brave and reaching out! It shows how much you care!
Determining what happens after ones life is a hefty subject, especially in regards to suicide. Thank you for reaching out to us with this question, I think it requires a lot of reflection based upon your personal beliefs. Some people believe in heaven and hell while others don't, and some believe people will end up in those places for a variety of decisions they make here on earth. I think it's up to you to determine what you believe. I cannot tell you for 100% certainty if or if not someone will go to hell if they end their own life, however I can tell you that there are a variety of choices we get to make while we are here. I want to discourage anyone to act upon thoughts of suicide or self harm, and instead choose to reach out to a resource. If you are experiencing a crisis, please contact the local crisis line at 1-800-626-8137 or the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255. You are welcome to call us at 360.397.2428 or text us at 360.984.0936 if you need a safe place to vent or talk things out. Thank you for reaching out, and while I wasn't able to answer your question, I hope this response gave you some points to think about.
10/18/2021 - Suicidal thoughts, don’t know what to do to make myself feel better
I feel so hopeless. Everyday is such a struggle and I don’t have the time to unwind and relax. I really feel like giving up. I don’t want to do this anymore. I am so stressed out and people just tell me that it’s all in my head. It’s not. I’m alone and I don’t have any friends. I have really really bad social anxiety so forming friendships is so difficult. I don’t have anyone to talk to. My parents just tell me to suck it up and I stopped going to therapy because it didn’t help at all. I’ve been like this for about 1 or 2 years and nothing’s changed. No improvement at all.
Hello! I'm so sorry that you have been struggling with that. I'm sure you've heard time and time again that things will get better and with the amount of time you've been feeling like this you may doubt it but I have to promise you that life will get better. You are so incredibly strong to go through what you're going through so I promise that hanging in there will help. It may not be any time in the immediate future but I promise you hanging in there will be worth it!
This is your choice but if you are willing I really do suggest trying multiple therapists, sometimes it can be a struggle finding the right one but I figure it wouldn't hurt too bad to give that a try again. TeenTalk or other crisis call centers if you need it is also here to talk to you through text or calls whenever you want/need it.
I really hope things will get better as soon as possible because you deserve it, you really, really do.
thank u for reaching out to us seriously we appreciate you being so brave and taking a step like this one. But yea i totally get it being in a headspace that doesn’t let you move foreword in your life and how frustrating that is to feel like everyday is a chore. giving up is incredibly easy since it seems like we can’t do anything to fix it but, and you have probably heard this so many times, it gets better. parents sometimes don’t understand how hard it is to just leave your bed everyday but believe me when i say i am incredibly proud of u for reaching out. realizing you have need help is a great first step and yea sometimes therapy doesn’t work but there are a lot of distractions and programs out there meant to help us. it takes a long time to recover and feel free again so it’ll be a long ride but i assure u that at some point this’ll just be a bad memory for you. take care of yourself and i understand how hard it is for you and how helpless you might feel in a situation like this one. even if you don’t realize it, you have people that care about you and want to see you thrive in the world so don’t give up just yet. you’re here for a reason so try to make the most of it even if it doesn’t feel the best at the moment. everything will be okay and i’m more than happy to respond to u again if u decide to leave a message back :)
llo! I'm so glad you've decided to reach out. It's really hard to talk to people you don't even know so just that is great! I'm really sorry your parents are saying that, that's not helpful at all. I think it's hard for people who care a lot about you to imagine that you aren't doing well. Hopefully if you needed immediate help, you still feel like you could go to them? If not them, maybe another relative or just someone you could lean on if you ever felt like you might do something to put yourself at risk. It sucks being alone, so finding people you could turn to if you needed them might be a good thing. They say some stress is healthy, but not to the point of having it be all consuming, that's for sure. If you're looking for advice, I'd say to take everything you don't absolutely need to be doing off your plate. If you're doing multiple clubs or extracurriculars, you could try to pick one to stick with. If it's a lot of difficult classes stressing you out, you could drop them for easier ones. Even if it's a job and you like or need the money, if it's at all within your means, you could think about quitting. It may seem like a bad idea to take it easy but no amount of money is worth your life. You are more important then a graduation honor, you are more important then any grade, or job, or any other stressors in your life. You deserve to take time for yourself, seriously, you aren't a robot as nice as that might be sometimes. Putting yourself first is honestly really hard, but often relieving. lt may not be an overnight change but with lightening up your workload who knows, maybe you'll find you have more time to get to know other people around you who are also having a hard time with friends ;)