12/23/25-My best friend
what do I do when my guy bestfriend has a gf but flirts with me and I've liked him for a while but I don't wanna ruin his relationship or our friendship?
from chloe
Hi there, I'm Chloe, I will say I have experienced this a few times- one time they were in a full-blown relationship with one of my friends, I get not wanting to ruin his relationship as well as your guy's friendship. But I also don't know him but maybe he is just a flirtatious person you know? As someone with a guy best friend I obviously liked him but that was back in like elementary school but that's just a phase I feel like every girl goes through when having a guy best friend. This is a sticky situation to be in because it's hard to know what to do because two things are at stake which you don't want to ruin. The advice I would give you is just kind of ignore the flirting if you can and just respond in a normal way. I wish I could give you more advice, but I don't really know the situation while I've delt with this kind of thing in the past every situation is different. from kit
Hi, thank you for reaching out! My best advice would be to not do anything. I know that might not be the answer you are wanting to hear but if he already has a girlfriend then I don't recommend making any moves. Sometimes I flirt with my friends and they flirt with me but it's purely just as an inside joke and both people are always comfortable with it. I'm not sure if maybe he is just flirting because he is comfortable with you or if there are feelings behind it. If it is bothering you, you can always say something to him about it. I'm sorry though that things have been complicated with your friend. I wish you the best! -Kit from Lina
Lina here! I just wanted to let you know, first and foremost, that this isn’t your fault. Being a teenager is difficult, and the fact is, love is complicated. Second of all, I hate to admit this, but people say I have a flirtatious personality, and it sucks because I do feel like I lead people on sometimes—or maybe I just have too much rizz and aura, but I don’t know. However, the point is, i understand how you might feel led on by him due to his flirts. Third, **HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!** This is a very important piece of information. I mean, even if he *did* like you, acting on it would be cheating. Having feelings is completely natural, but acting on those feelings *is* cheating. Look, I’m sorry, but if he’s catching feelings outside of his relationship, that’s a red flag—meaning he could do the same thing in *your* relationship too. Best-case scenario: he doesn’t like you, and maybe you wait until he’s out of the relationship. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but these are just my morals and thoughts. Once again, I only want you happy and safe, and a cheater won’t keep you happy in the long term. Just some thoughts—I don’t know the whole situation. Enjoy your day/night, and if you’d like to talk more, I text or call on Monday from 6–9 p.m. **GOOD LUCK!** --Lina signing off from payton
Hi there! Thank you so much for reaching out! That sounds like a hard situation to be in, im sure it leads to a lot of feeling being felt. I would recommend that you just talk to him, I think that the only way anything will change. You don’t have to come straight out and say “I like you” but you could try to ask him how he feels? I know that probably sounds scary but I think communication is the only way anything will happen. I hope everything gets figured out and you are able to stay friends with him in the long run :). Feel free to reach out again anytime! 11/14/2025-Help
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theres this guy....he is soooo adorable but he has a gf and i feel like he likes me but idk at river its comfusing with this kind of stuff i dont know what to do.. help? FROM LINA
Wowww! that sounds like a lot of emotions. Hiii! Im Lina, i'm a volunteer here at teen talk! I think your really brave for sharing these thoughts, many might keep them to themselves. Respect. I've been in a similar situation, but more like reversed roles. long story. but, if this cute guy has a girlfriend and does like you, thats up to you and him where to go from there. but even before we jump to conclusions, you have to ask. He does have a girlfriend, so maybe you could talk to her if you know her about her bf possibly catching feelings for you. However, i have no clue what your relationship with his girlfriend is, and coming outta the blue to say "hey, i think your bf might like me, btw, i like him" might sound crazy to her... so, my advice. Think it over. Maybe you guys are just friends. Maybe you truly do like him, and he truely likes you. But, taking time to really think before we act, especially in this situation, wont hurt. and the last thing we need is someone getting heart broken. Second, i think its up to you. If you truly want to confess to him, do it. however, i do believe talking to his girlfriend before you go and confess might be smart. but, only if you feel comfortable. I would like to add, that if he has a girlfriend, and he likes you-- you could, correct me if im wrong, deem it as cheating. And personally for me, if my lover who i was with fell for another girl while i was with him, i'd feel heartbroken, and i respectfully would call him a cheater. and this is all just my opinion, but, if he cheated on me in my relationship, whats gonna stop him from cheating on the next. i want you happy, but i want you to make smart decision, relationship wise, you may want him now, but be aware... we're all young, we're not the brightest, but i want you to really think before anything goes down. if he ends up liking you... that is all up to you guys. Whether he wants to date you, whether you want to date him. its all up to you. I shared what i'd do, i do hope this ends up okay! wishing you luck! I want you safe <3 and Happy! Remember that! Lina from flora
Hello, this is Flora, and thank you for reaching out with your thoughts. This can be a difficult situation to navigate through; however, I want to remind you that it's okay to have unexpected romantic feelings for a person. I don't know the full situation since I'm not sure if you are friends with him or not, but if you are, I would keep your feelings to yourself since he does have a relationship. It's normal to find him cute, especially if you have a crush on him, but I would say to respect his relationship. Another thing is that people may naturally be flirty and friendly without realizing it. Honestly, if he is giving you mixed signals while he has a girlfriend, you should take a step back and rethink this friendship. One tip, for this situation, is you could randomly say to him, like "Sometimes I can’t tell if we’re just really friendly or if the vibe is something else. I don’t want to misread anything.” This can allow him to answer and decide if he wants to be honest with you, as well as clarify any miscommunication. Another point is just watch his actions towards you, and keep being friendly. The biggest tip I would give you is to focus on yourself and do things that you enjoy to keep you from overthinking. I hope this message helps you to decide on what to do next! If you ever want to talk to a buddy, I'm always here for you! My shift is on Thursday from 5-8 pm! Flora from payton
Hey there! Thank you for reaching out! I totally get that it might be confusing to figure out what to do in a situation like that. My biggest suggestion is to just talk to him. Maybe if you just express how you’re feeling, you could feel less confused about what to do! It’s totally okay to not know what to do though, sometimes things can be really confusing! Patience is also key, maybe if you give it some time, things could become clearer and you’ll know what to do? I hope everything goes well and you figure it out! Feel free to write again! -Payton from May
Hi! I'm May. Thank you for reaching out. This sounds like a really complicated situation. If I were in this situation, I would try to take a step back. In my opinion, it's okay to be friends with him, but not anything more. I completely understand having feelings for him, and that's okay because you can't control how you feel! However, he has a girlfriend, and I think it's also important to be respectful to her. Again, thank you for reaching out. I hope you have a good day, and please reach out again if you want to talk more! from hazel
Hey, thanks for reaching out! My name's Hazel :D Oof...that is definitely a funky spot to be in. Having a crush is already confusing, but the fact that he already has a girlfriend means things can easily get messy. And honestly, I feel like a lot of kids our age and at school tend to give off these mixed signals, so it makes sense you don't really know what to think. He might seem like he likes you, but when someone's already taken, I'd strongly suggest not starting anything. While I have no doubt that he's adorable (I understand the challenge of not wanting to pass up on someone who seems really cool!), I think you need to prioritize your own interests and protect your heart. You deserve someone who's actually available, and who won't leave you guessing and stuff. I hope my perspective was able to give you some more ideas as to what to do! If you want to discuss anything more in-depth, we're always here to talk it through with you. Best, Hazel from kit
Hello, Thank you for reaching out to teen talk about what's going on in your life. I think your feelings are totally valid. I've had where I was crushing on someone who was dating someone else. My best advice would be to step away. It's okay to have feelings for them but I don't recommend getting involved with anyone that is dating someone else. -Kit from blair
I wouldn't waste your time on him. If he does actually like you and isn't breaking up with his girlfriend that's not fair to her and it means he probably doesn't respect his romantic partners very much. He probably wouldn't treat you any different to her. Nobody is cute enough to be worth all the mess that will come up during situations like that. I promise. Blair from dylan
Hi, Thanks for reaching out. I can't say that I know all the details of this situation or have ever been in your shoes, but I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. Personally, I think it's totally fine to have feelings for someone who's in a committed relationship, as long as you don't try to break it up. He may have feelings for you, but I think it's important to take into account how his girlfriend would feel if she knew this was happening. It definitely sucks when guys can be confusing, but in this situation, I think the best option morally is to move on and find someone you like who isn't in this complicated of a situation. I can't imagine how confusing this must feel, but I wish you the best of luck in getting through this. Thanks again for reaching out, please feel free to write us again, call in, or text if you have further questions or want to talk about this situation. I'm personally available on Wednesdays from 4-7pm. -Dylan Comments are closed.
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